As we go through life and meet new people we eventually somewhere down the line find someone we want to spend the rest of our lives with. Now considering that it is said that every individual is unique or even narrowing it down to an astrological element and saying that there are 12 kinds of people you have 1/12 chances of meeting your perfect match. The rest of the time when we may not be lucky enough to find our soul mates which results all relationship requiring a bit of compromise and sacrifice. But when do you reach that point where all you are doing is changing for the other person. How do you know when you have changed so much that you lost yourself completely. I am by nature loud,talkative,fun,confident (kind of arrogant,possessive,sarcastic) and overall quite a nut. But whatever I am..I'm Me. If you tell me you like me, if you get close to me is it wrong for me to assume that you are doing this because you like me for the human being i am, both qualities and flaws? I learnt how to accommodate to the point where i am sitting here and trying to figure out why did i not stop myself. Is love that blind? Maybe this is the reason there are commitment phobics out there. Its easy to be dominating in a relationship or if by nature you are one that likes to follow. But what about the people in the middle, the one's who are rational and know the right mix of the two. Where on one hand you may think that this quality is amazing, it is because of this that many a relationship have failed. Because we try to analyse and rationalise. Sometimes even the best relationship are based on utter nonsense, I'm not saying that theres no love, its just that the more you think the more you fight.
"I'm trying to change you for your own good" Anyone out there got this line from a boyfriend or girlfriend? Excuse me if i needed to change i would have in the last 19 years. Believe me i have had my chances. The one thing you want to turn around and ask this person is if they are in a relationship with you or a figment of their imagination that they want you to be.
I know this may sound egoistical but I LOVE ME..and i don't believe theres anyone out there i would want to change for anymore. Marilyn Monroe once said "I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best"
This is what I have to say:
You say you love me,then why the frown
You say I am a princess then where is my crown?
You say that i am special,then why should i not be me
You say I'm not good enough, then who should i be?
Not even for a moment did i try to change you
Somewhere overnight my ego and attitude flew
I forgot all the insults and all the hurt
But today I'm reduced to just dirt.
I could scream and make people cry
But today my tears refuse to dry.
For 18 odd years I used to be the best
But one boy came along and made me like the rest.
Enough is enough, not any more
It will take a year to heal,or maybe even four
But eventually ill laugh or at least smile
One day again you hear me from across a mile.
Okie while looking for that quote i found a couple more of Marilyn Monroe's quotes which i thought HAD to be shared.
*"I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."
*"Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring."
*"A wise girl kisses but doesn't love, listens but doesn't believe, and leaves before she is left."
*"I don't know who invented high heels, but all women owe him a lot!"
*"When it comes down to it, I let them think what they want. If they care enough to bother with what I do, then I'm already better than them."
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